Words did not help

Conversations were not enough
In the early years of my career, I supported a 45-year-old woman who had struggled to set boundaries in her private and professional life for several years. This caused a lot of stress and had a massive impact on her self-esteem.

I tried to explain the mechanism that led to her inability to set boundaries. She did not stand up for herself, was worried about pleasing others and was extremely afraid of rejection.

It was a great conversation. She understood what we had talked about and planned to implement the suggestions we had discussed. She returned to my office after three or four weeks, and the result of her efforts was sobering. She had understood everything, but she had not been able to make any changes. I gave her some additional tips and suggested some exercises that might strengthen her and help her to stand up for herself.

A new approach
Unfortunately, this did not work either. After three sessions had passed without yielding the desired improvement, I had to change my approach. I began to strengthen the energy field mechanisms that we had talked about in the previous sessions.

During the following session, she mentioned that she had noticed an improvement in her ability to set boundaries in an area we had not even discussed yet. This success could not have been the result of the previous conversations.

Her words touched me. She said: “Mr. Brunner, I just said ‘no’ without thinking or worrying about it. It felt just right and natural!”

From that point on, I knew that this technique will allow me to help other people.

As soon as obstructions are overcome, you forget about them

I like to think back on a distinctive experience with a client. It was our final session, and she told me that she was feeling wonderful but that she wondered why the remote treatment and in-person sessions had to last over a year.

I explained where her initial problems were located, and that they no longer exist. She felt somewhat embarrassed because she could not remember these issues anymore.
I told her about an exciting process that everyone experiences: as soon as obstacles and problems are overcome, you tend to forget about them. This is a natural process that allows us to look forward.

The treatment time varies depending on where you are in your journey towards healing.

The healing process is complex, and I need to take my client’s current state into account.

Life does not stand still. You fight, you give up, and you try again. The intensity and timeline of the healing process depends on the current state of the emotional injuries and energy fields.