No, you don't have to heal
your inner child to be happy. First, you should ask yourself whether your inner
child is wounded at all – because that's not the case for everyone.
If there is an injury, it is crucial to determine whether it affects an area that negatively influences your current life: Does it incapacitate you, block you, or restrict you? If the injury has no noticeable effect on your life, healing it makes little sense. Instead, you should invest your energy and time in areas that actually improve the quality of your life.
How important is it to heal your inner child to be happy?
No, you don't have to heal your inner child to be happy. First, you should ask yourself whether your inner child is wounded at all – because that's not the case for everyone.
If there is an injury, it is crucial to determine whether it affects an area that negatively influences your current life: Does it incapacitate you, block you, or restrict you? If the injury has no noticeable effect on your life, healing it makes little sense. Instead, you should invest your energy and time in areas that actually improve the quality of your life.
How do I know if my inner child is hurt and needs healing?
It's not always easy to recognise whether your inner child is hurt and needs healing. You should ask yourself: ‘Do I have behavioural or emotional problems that have been with me since childhood?’ Insecurities that persist can indicate injuries to the inner child, for example, if a sense of security or inner safety could not be established at the time.
What is important is that this hurt has a strong impact on your current life. The healing of the inner child can bring about great changes – sometimes even those that turn your life upside-down. For instance, someone who feels comfortable with their adjustment could become maladjusted after healing and thus experience problems in functioning relationships or at work.
You should only heal your inner child if you are truly suffering and really need the change. Otherwise, you risk ‘fixing’ something that wasn't a problem in your life to begin with. However, if the suffering is severe, the changes are usually warranted and end up being positive, even though they may be challenging at first.
How can you heal your inner child?
You can heal your inner child by learning to be there for yourself. Inner wounds occur because you felt left alone or overwhelmed as a child. Healing means putting the focus on yourself, supporting yourself and not letting yourself down.
It is important to take small steps, for example by facing challenges without overwhelming yourself – such as overcoming maladjustment or learning to deal with conflicts better.
However, this process takes time. Unhealed inner wounds that persist into adulthood are often deeply rooted and cannot be healed in a few months. Patience and persistence are crucial during this time.
How does the relationship to your parents influence the healing of your inner child?
In my opinion, the relationship with one's parents plays a subordinate role in the healing of the inner child. Wounds develop for two main reasons: either through external factors such as difficult parents, a stressful environment or traumatic experiences – or through internal weaknesses, where the necessary strength to deal with certain challenges is lacking.
Discussions with parents can be helpful if they are willing to delve into it in a supportive manner. But if this candidness is lacking, there is a risk of reopening and reinforcing old wounds through renewed rejection or misunderstanding.
It is therefore important to be mindful: support from parents can be helpful, but should not be forced at the expense of one's own healing.
Is it important to know when the injuries to the inner child occurred?
It is not crucial to know whether the injuries occurred in childhood or later. Most wounds to the inner child are inflicted in childhood, especially as a result of experiences such as betrayal of trust or the feeling of being left alone / negligence. While knowing when and where the wounds originated can bring insight and relief, it does not heal the wounds. The focus should be on recognising the wounds, acknowledging them and working on them step by step to resolve the sense of being hurt.
What are the first steps to help heal the inner child?
My approach begins by checking in the energy field whether the wounds actually lie with the inner child. If so, I work to repair these wounds directly in the energy field. In my experience, this is often the faster and more precise way, since the impaired function can be hereby restored systematically. Working independently on the inner child can also be useful, but it carries the risk of stirring up more than what is necessary.
What exactly is the inner child and what role does it play?
For me, the inner child is a comprehensive concept that reflects our basic levels of trust. These include self-confidence, basic trust, self-esteem, the ability to set boundaries, the sense of one's own self and standing up for one's own needs. An intact inner child means that all these qualities are fully developed and fully functional.
How is the wounded inner child related to a wounded energy field?
The wounded inner child can be considered as an area in a person's energy field. In this sense, the annual rings show whether there were difficult phases in the early years of a person's childhood. Therefore, the wounded inner child is a synonym for wounded energy fields as they take on the function of the inner child.