Getting rid of internal sadness takes time and also depends on how well you can let go. Grief is often associated with loss. For example, when someone close to you dies, this is a normal emotional reaction. This grief can either occur suddenly or develop slowly.
It is also possible that internal sadness results from an emotional injury. Trauma, neglect or abuse in childhood can trigger grief. If you hold on to past events and don't process them, this inner heaviness will stay with you.
Grief varies from person to person. It is not always obvious. It can manifest itself as a lack of energy or drive, inner emptiness, pain, anger, circling thoughts or crying. It can also be accompanied by symptoms such as exhaustion or weight loss. Some people withdraw when grieving, break off contact or avoid everything.
But how bad is internal sadness really? Why are some people sadder than others? And how is it possible to get rid of this internal sadness?
If you have felt a deep sadness for a long time and wish you could finally overcome it, then learn to understand it. With a few simple tips, you will then be able to deal with the sadness and let it go.
How bad is internal sadness and why do some people experience it more and others less?
Grief in itself is not bad at all. It is part of life. Sadness is only perceived as bad when it dominates your life. But in my view, it's also fundamentally a good thing. It makes you come to terms with it.
You should think about why you are sad. What triggered it? What can release or lighten the sadness?
Grief can therefore be a guide, a signpost, as long as it does not dominate life, of course.
Why some people are sadder than others is because some are able to deal with their lives and their internal sadness better than others.
But what I often notice is that people who are tired on the inside and no longer have the strength to go on, are sadder for a longer period. It's like an exhaustion of the energy fields. Instead of ending in fatigue, it leads to internal sadness.
Does sadness also mean mourning things?
Sadness has many different facets. Mourning is a very intense form of sadness that often also triggers hopelessness.
It means that you are actually unwilling to move forward.
Therefore, it can be said that you are not willing to let go of something. The reason for mourning is holding on. Thus, life comes to a standstill. It becomes gray and sad.
How does this deep sadness generally come about?
If you can't let go, then these are related to processes deeply within. Generally, this has a lot to do with very deep emotional wounds. At some point in your life, in your being, you have shattered your relationship with yourself. In a sense, you have lost yourself a little.
If you lose something, then the loss you feel couples with your own self-loss.
That's what makes it so difficult to let go. The reason is because it is coupled with what you would like to let go of. You would also have to release a part of yourself. And that's not possible and therefore blocks development.
One example:
This can be the case if you were very badly hurt in your childhood and were overwhelmed by this hurt and started to let yourself down. You no longer stand by yourself. You then continue to live like that. Afterwards, the whole thing is overridden, it is covered over. And you begin to no longer notice it.
The fact that you are letting yourself down might only come to light when you are facing difficult situations.
You fall in love or have something that is important to you. And when that falls apart, it leaves you feeling abandoned. This could be a break-up with your partner, for example. They decide to take a different path. But of course, you don't experience it that way yourself. You feel abandoned, let down. This feeling links to the one from your childhood. It emerges again because they occur at a similar frequency and interconnect with one another. At this point, it becomes very difficult to let go because you must let go of yourself.
That is why it is also important to help people who are in such situations. The emotional injuries must be resolved before it is possible to let go in that sense.
How can we overcome internal sadness?
As strange as it may sound, getting rid of an internal sadness means not preoccupying yourself with it when you realize that you can't overcome it. In this case, it makes sense to do the exact opposite.
Become superficial by entering the joy of life. Laugh, live and celebrate. Be around happy people, even if you feel sad.
If you are with people who laugh a lot, it is described as having a white color. Sadness, on the other hand, has a grey color. If you are a sad person around lots of happy people, it is almost like a black dot on a white page. Meaning that the sadness becomes visible.
But don't let your grief hold you back: Do things that cheer you up and make you happy. This will give you a contrast to your sadness, which can then be partially overcome.
Sadness begins to reconcile itself. Something really exciting happens: New perspectives open up for you. If, on the other hand, you feel sad, you lack perspective.
Let's go back to the image of your childhood again, when you were hurt and let yourself down. This went hand in hand with a lack of perspective. You let yourself down because you can no longer see the way and become overwhelmed. If you are abandoned, you feel overwhelmed and no longer recognize your path.
Now it is a matter of treading a new path and building up new perspectives.
Take a risk and develop yourself further so that sadness no longer has a reason to be there. This will fill your life again with vitality.
We have also introduced home remedies for sadness in another article.
How can you truly come to terms with your grief?
As already mentioned, it is important to see whereby you can find joy. Be on the hunt for good experiences. Ask yourself what you can do to regain perspective, goals and a new life.
This is also something that we all know from other people and from ourselves: People who are doing well uplift those around them, or you are carried along by them.
And over the course of an evening some day, you or the person you're talking to will say: "Wow, it did me wonders to not feel sad for once and to laugh. Now I am able to see a lot of things differently and from now on I will begin to do just that."
This does not mean that one single a fun evening will solve all your problems. Having fun and being lively are simply the opposite to being sad. If you have too much of one, you need a pinch of the other to restore the balance.
Being sad on the inside is not so bad after all. It is just not that pleasant when it is a constant state that lacks life energy and vitality.
Conclusion: Happy people help you to get rid of your internal sadness
Internal sadness is not necessarily a bad thing. It helps you to venture into new territories and change things. Sometimes it is also good to be sad as it allows for time to reflect and sort things out.
However, if you are tired and weak on the inside, the sadness will be long-lasting and will have a greater impact on your well-being. If you can't get out of this state of mind, it's important to get back to your own life, laugh, move on and look for new perspectives.
If your sadness is the result of emotional injuries during childhood, then seek out situations, moments and people whereby you are able to laugh and start truly living again.
The internal sadness is then balanced out with the help of an opposite pole, which is joy. You thereby let yourself be carried away and gain new perspectives despite your sadness.
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